Daniel moved out into his own home at the start of the lockdown.
Matthew was struggling to cope with Daniel’s workers coming into the house. This in turn saw Matthew’s behaviour increase which then transferred to Daniel. In the end I was getting world war 3. This in turn upset the neighbors who started winding the boys up, and the police were being called to the house a number of times throughout the day. It was fair to say a very stressful situation.
We had to show Daniel and Matthew a consistency and it was decided to reduce the length of time Daniel's support worker was coming in to allow Daniel to have time with me and Matthew. I also think Daniel wanted to be with me and Matthew because we had just taken delivery of a new car. It was always an intention that Daniel was to get his own house, with lots of planning, because of Matthew. After the easter holidays Matthew went into the school hub to allow me to get some time. Social work had received a report from the police that I was struggling. I had a call from Social work to advise me that they had secured a tenancy for Daniel and I was to prepare him to move out over the weekend. I initially said no because a lot more planning was needed for both boys. I was basically backed into a corner and I wrote a very silly email to social work which prompted them to move Daniel out that day. There was no consideration for Matthew, and Matthew went to school yet again to come home to another massive change with no longer living with his brother. Daniel is reportedly doing very well since moving out and has been in his house for over 2 years with 24/7 Support. It was hoped that Daniel getting his own house would give me a better quality of life and spend more quality time with both boys. However this is not the case. Matthew was stopped from seeing his brother because Matthew was getting upset and Social work wanted Daniel to settle. Matthew was getting upset because Daniel was not here. It was an intention that i could build up the bond with Daniel. But this did not happen because of how Matthew took the change in Daniel no longer being here. I was being advised on a regular basis that Daniel moving out would give all of us a better quality of life. It most certainly has for Daniel because he has a team of 5 people supporting him on a 24/7 basis. For me and Matthew we are both left really struggling, and not able to see Daniel because his team have built up a busy routine for Daniel. I have no support to fall back on. Daniel enjoys going on holidays and regular days out with his team, however there seems to be very limited room to budget into Daniels life to see me and Matthew. I think this will eventually have an adverse effect on Daniels life, and i think we will see Daniel becoming quite distressed. Daniel has made a number of people aware on more than one occassion that he misses me and Matthew and he wants more "family time with us". But this is just not happening.
